Most of us go through traumatic events in our lives at some stage or another, sometimes we manage these and deal with them and sometimes these experiences are too much to bare and we bury them, believing they are best out of sight and mind. When we experience trauma, we can lose feelings of safety, we doubt ourselves and those around us and can find it impossible to believe that we are loved or even capable of being loved. Trauma can turn worlds upside down, turn a place of wonder and beauty into a constant challenge and break you.
Trauma buries itself inside of our bodies, so deep sometimes that it is forgotten, covered up or turned into something else completely. Feelings of anxiety, fear, anger and a multitude health issues often have their root in trauma. We believe in these states of mind and illnesses because we can’t connect them to anything else. When we bury trauma it’s a bit like putting an unpaid bill in the back of a draw, we can’t see it any longer but it still needs to be paid, it lingers there, it doesn’t disappear. When we begin to work on ourselves, open ourselves up, these draws begin to open and at some point, the underlying trauma surfaces and knocks us sideways.
There are many practices such as self-hypnosis, meditation, journeying, EFT and other traditional therapies that help us open up and find ourselves but these are not always easy. Many people practice alone, and that’s okay these practices are meant to open our awareness, but when we start to delve into those draws, when we start to go into those very dark spaces and uncover the secrets they hold, that might just be the time you need someone else to guide you along the way.
I’ve worked in trauma for a long time, that doesn’t mean I was able to face my own traumas without the help of somebody else. As much as daily meditation was helpful, as things began to surface, I needed somewhere to put it, somebody to help me make sense of the mess and that person had to be chosen wisely. I needed someone who understood trauma, someone who had their own experience and had done the work on themselves, somebody who would listen and help me make sense of my own muddles.
I believe for me, it was a mixture of people, but each one helpful. I sat in group meditations, I shared what came up in the safe space. I had healing therapies and discovered the benefits of hypnotherapy and I talked. I wrote, I told stories and discovered poetry. I unraveled myself and I cleared out those draws and lined them with love.
Don’t clean out that draw alone, use your connections, make new ones, find the one who has been there before and trust in the process. Recovery is possible and the best possible place to be.